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Poor Relational Behaviors

November 12, 2016

(5) Losing Strategies to Staying Connected


• Being Right: speaking with self-righteous indignation


• Controlling Partner: trying to “get him/her to…”


• Unbridled Self –Expression: an adult temper tantrum


• Retaliation: “you burned me, now I’ll annihilate you”


• Withdrawal: becoming walled-off and superior or walled-off and defeated


WHAT TO DO?????????????


* Make time for each other


* List your complains. Not criticisms which attack  your partner and lead to shutdown or defensiveness, but valid complains that address behaviors that lead to hurt or disconnect.


* Find a time when you both are in a good "head/heart place" with each other, then deal with one complaint at a time. Alternate as you go. 


* Be patience & cautious with each other. Perhaps simply writing your complaints down separately, then seeking  professional guidance is more effective.


* Schedule a time with me to address how combating these losing strategies, and learning new skills can result in a more connected relationship.  253-777-9782 x 700



References: Real Relational Solutions (2007)

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